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A Cherokee Legend of Two Wolves 

An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice:  Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times. He continued: It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing. Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit. The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eyes and asked: Which one wins, Grandfather? The Grandfather smiled and quietly said: The one I feed.





AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS
by Portia Nelson

I
I walk down the street. 
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk 
I fall in. I am lost ... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. 
It takes me forever to find a way out.

II
I walk down the same street. 
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. 
I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. 
I can't believe I am in the same place but, it isn't my fault. 
It still takes a long time to get out.

III
I walk down the same street. 
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. 
I see it is there. I still fall in ... it's a habit. 
My eyes are open I know where I am. It is my fault. 
I get out immediately.

IV
I walk down the same street. 
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. 
I walk around it.

V
I walk down another street.